To start practicing emotional intelligence here are 5 tips to develop it:
1. Keep calm
When a problem arises, we tend to lose our sanity and we can say or do things that will eventually make the situation worse, so it is important to remain calm. We can reach an emotional balance by taking 10 seconds of breaths, inhaling through the nose and exhaling through our mouths, going for a walk or even washing our face with cold water.
2. Put yourself in the other's shoes
Examine the perspective and analyze the situation, try to understand why things happened and the other person's reasons. Take a step back and think about the possible motivations of people before reacting.
3.Present different solutions or solution scenarios
Before making a final decision about the problem, imagine the possible results or consequences to them. Imagine how you and the other person would react to each scenario and ask yourself if it is the best decision as a solution to the problem, if it is not viable, always have another option as a plan b.
4. Try to be as firm as possible in your decision making
Personally, I believe that one can never know everything, so we can make mistakes in our decision making and it is important to know and recognize when we are wrong. Although there are cases in which we know that our decision-making is correct and backed up by good arguments, it is important to be firm and not be corrupted or manipulated by people with different ideologies.
5. Practice your emotional intelligence with others
Whether in personal, professional relationships or even with strangers, the way you influence others reflects your emotional intelligence. Strive to leave each person with whom you interact in a better mood.
It is worth mentioning that emotional intelligence develops throughout our lives and throughout our day to day personal and/or professional experiences, which is why some of us possess it and some others don’t. It is important to respect others and if we identify someone who has little emotional intelligence, do not abuse this and help him or her to develop it.
I hope these tips have been of your interest and have helped you identify if you have emotional intelligence or if you need to develop it.